Rap on Rapport

Rap on Rapport

Success and happiness falter with failed attempts to connect effectively – to create rapport. Learn and practice the skill of rapport in daily life.

Obstacles to success and happiness often begin as unsuccessful attempts to connect effectively – to create rapport. As the ensuing problems accumulate, our attention shifts away from this initial inability to connect; dwelling instead on details about the latest missed commitment or subtle put-down. Over time, solution-oriented questions such as “How can we work together?” are replaced with barrier-building judgments like “Us? Work together?”. In situations like this, problems continue to escalate as attention stays fixed on the cascade of unwelcome results rather than the initial disconnect.

Rapport is a skill that can be learned, practiced, and integrated into daily life. We experience it as a profound sense of connection emerging from deep congruencies in feelings, understandings, and interests. Rapport surges through crowded stadiums in electrifying waves of affinity. It arises within each of us as values, goals, and actions align. Rapport enables skilled improvisers – athletes, musicians, and comedians – to perform with ease and harmony. It creates the bond ensuring commitments are met; securing the trust and compassion needed to avert critical challenges. Rapport changes how our perceptions and feelings form; replacing guarded mistrust and frustration with open curiosity and fulfillment.

Rapport isn’t about our success and happiness: rapport is our success and happiness.