“Place your fearfulness in the loving cradle of loving kindness. And suckle it, or nurse it, with the profound brilliant milk of doubtlessness. And, in the cool shade of fearlessness, fan it with the fan of joy and happiness.
No tenderness for ourselves translates as no kindness, no compassion, no mercy for others. So, this loving kindness, this atmosphere of warmth, is allowing yourself to be as you are without justifying it or condemning it.
This allowing is a process of being here all along. Not just when we like how it’s going, but being here all along. And, instead of making yourself more self-absorbed, it makes you very decent, very sane, and very open to the world and other people.”
– Pema Chodron, author of THE PLACES THAT SCARE YOU: A GUIDE TO FEARLESSNESS IN DIFFICULT TIMES